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title: "Child's behavior should not be seen merely as stubbornness!"
description: "Child's behavior should not be seen merely as stubbornness!"
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last_updated: 2026-09-04
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# Child's school fear should not be underestimated!

## Bilgi

| Özellik | Değer |
|---------|-------|
| **Kategori** | saglik |
| **Yayın Tarihi** | 2026-09-04 |
| **Güncelleme** | 2026-09-04 |
| **Kaynak** | [Üsküdar Haber Ajansı](https://uha.com.tr/childs-school-fear-should-not-be-underestimated) |

## Özet

Experts state that with the opening of schools, some children may experience intense anxiety instead of excitement, and physical complaints such as not wanting to go to school, crying at the school gate, clinging tightly to a parent, and abdominal pain can be among the signs of school fear.

## İçerik

Child and Adolescent Psychiatry Specialist Asst. Prof. Yakup Erdoğan, emphasizing that beneath a child's anxiety, there can be separation anxiety, as well as peer bullying, social anxiety, learning difficulties, or changes within the family, said, “Long goodbyes at the school gate and repeatedly returning can make the moment of separation even more difficult. A parent's calm, determined, and predictable demeanor gives the child confidence.” Asst. Prof. Erdoğan, who stated that it is important for the family and school to adopt a calm, consistent, and common approach, underlined that professional support should be sought if the anxiety persists or significantly affects the child's daily life and school attendance.

Üsküdar University NPİSTANBUL Hastanesi Child and Adolescent Psychiatry Specialist Asst. Prof. Yakup Erdoğan made statements about the causes of school fear and school refusal in children, especially its relationship with separation anxiety, its symptoms, and how the problem should be addressed.

**School fear and separation anxiety from parents can feed into each other!**

Asst. Prof. Yakup Erdoğan stated that while the opening of schools is an exciting start for many children, it can turn into intense anxiety for some. He said, “Children who are new to school, returning to class after a long holiday, or experiencing a school change, in particular, may exhibit school refusal behaviors such as not wanting to leave home, clinging tightly to a parent, crying at the school gate, or various physical complaints.”

Asst. Prof. Erdoğan stated that school fear and separation anxiety from parents can feed into each other, adding, “The signals given by children must be correctly interpreted. School fear can manifest as a child experiencing intense anxiety at the thought of going to school and therefore avoiding school or having difficulty staying in school. Some children may express their anxiety directly by saying ‘I'm scared.’ Others may experience abdominal pain, headaches, nausea, a feeling of vomiting, loss of appetite, or frequent urges to go to the toilet in the mornings. These symptoms often increase as school hours approach and may lessen when the child stays at home. Difficulty falling asleep, frequent awakenings at night, nightmares, unwillingness to prepare school supplies, restlessness starting on Sunday evening, and physical complaints intensifying on Monday morning should also be taken into consideration.”

**The source of anxiety should be understood before saying ‘They don't like school’!**

Asst. Prof. Erdoğan pointed out that not every child who doesn't want to go to school struggles for the same reason, stating, “A child may be afraid of being separated from their parents, being alone at school, not being able to communicate with their teacher, being excluded by friends, or failing academically.”

“Peer bullying, learning difficulties, attention problems, teacher changes, class changes, relocation, family conflicts, illness, loss, or a traumatic event can also be behind school refusal,” said Asst. Prof. Erdoğan, emphasizing that the problem cannot be explained solely by looking at behavior at the school gate, and that the child's home, school, and social life should be evaluated together.

**School makes separation visible!**

Asst. Prof. Erdoğan reminded that it is natural for a child to experience unease when separating from a caregiver during certain periods of their development, and stated the following:

“Anxiety that is more intense, long-lasting, and disrupts daily life than expected for their age and developmental level needs to be addressed separately.

A child may think something bad will happen to their mother or father, refuse to be separated from them, not want to sleep alone, or constantly demand reassurance. Since school makes separation visible, it can be one of the places where this anxiety is most prominently experienced. Here, the main issue is often the thought of being away from a trusted person, rather than the school itself.” 

**The physical manifestation of anxiety should not be ignored!**

Asst. Prof. Erdoğan, emphasizing that physical complaints appearing on school mornings should not be seen as an ‘excuse,’ said, “Anxiety can manifest with physical symptoms in children.”

Asst. Prof. Erdoğan pointed out that a child can genuinely feel abdominal pain, nausea, palpitations, or dizziness, stating, “First, it should be evaluated whether there is a medical reason. If no physical illness is detected, emotional factors should be investigated instead of downplaying the complaints. Saying ‘There's nothing wrong with you’ may not comfort the child; on the contrary, it can strengthen the feeling of not being understood.”

**Prolonged goodbyes can give a child the message ‘there is danger here’!**

Asst. Prof. Yakup Erdoğan stated that long goodbyes at the school gate and repeatedly returning can make the moment of separation even more difficult, adding that a parent's calm, determined, and predictable demeanor gives the child confidence.

Asst. Prof. Erdoğan made the statement, “Goodbyes should be short, warm, and clear. The parent should tell the child when they will return in a way the child can understand and keep their promise. Sneaking away can damage trust; goodbyes lasting for minutes, on the other hand, can give the message that separation is dangerous. Since parental anxiety can easily reflect onto the child, it is also very important for the adult to regulate their own emotions.”

**Phrases like ‘If you cry, I'll leave you here’ can heighten anxiety!**

Asst. Prof. Erdoğan warned that approaches such as threatening a child, shaming them, comparing them to other children, or downplaying their fear can deepen the problem, saying, “‘Don't act like a baby,’ ‘everyone else is going, only you are crying,’ or ‘if you cry, I'll leave you here’ add shame and guilt to the child's anxiety.” 

Instead, Asst. Prof. Erdoğan stated that the child's feelings should be accepted, but a calm and consistent stance on continuing school should be maintained. He underlined that allowing a child to stay home every time they feel anxious, while providing short-term relief, can reinforce avoidance behavior. 

**Family and school must speak the same language!**

Asst. Prof. Erdoğan, emphasizing the importance of teachers, guidance counselors, families, and, when necessary, child mental health specialists developing a common approach to solving school fear, said, “Planning the child's first minutes upon arrival at school in advance can reduce anxiety.”

Asst. Prof. Erdoğan stated that it should be clear who will meet the child, how they will transition to the classroom, who they can ask for support when struggling, and who will pick them up at the end of the day. He used the expression, “Giving different messages at home and at school can increase a child's feeling of uncertainty. Adults following a common, calm, and consistent plan supports a sense of trust.”

**A child's behavior should not be seen merely as stubbornness! **

Asst. Prof. Yakup Erdoğan, pointing out that school refusal can be related to different psychological, developmental, or environmental reasons, said, “Peer bullying, social anxiety, depressive symptoms, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, learning difficulties, autism spectrum characteristics, and changes within the family should be taken into consideration in the evaluation.”

Asst. Prof. Erdoğan, reminding that viewing a child's behavior solely as stubbornness can lead to missing the underlying cause, concluded his words as follows:

“Effective support begins with correctly understanding why the child is struggling. Professional evaluation should be sought if anxiety does not decrease within days, gradually intensifies, the child cannot regularly attend school, cannot stay in class, or physical complaints become frequent. In cases of severe sleep and appetite problems, significant withdrawal, anger outbursts, panic symptoms, suspicion of peer bullying, or the child talking about self-harm thoughts, support should be sought without delay. 

A treatment and support plan is created individually for each child. The child's age, developmental characteristics, the cause and duration of anxiety, and family dynamics are evaluated. If necessary, psychotherapy with the child, parental counseling, school adjustments, and treatment for any accompanying mental health issues can be planned together.”

## Akademik Referans

DOI: [https://doi.org/10.32739/uha.id.92027](https://doi.org/10.32739/uha.id.92027)

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