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title: "How does forgiveness liberate?"
description: "Üsküdar University, Founding Rector Psychiatrist Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan discusses Forgiveness, Psychology of Forgiveness, Self-Compassion, Revenge."
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# How does forgiveness liberate?

## Bilgi

| Özellik | Değer |
|---------|-------|
| **Kategori** | haber |
| **Yayın Tarihi** | 2026-01-12 |
| **Güncelleme** | 2026-02-26 |
| **Kaynak** | [Üsküdar Haber Ajansı](https://uha.com.tr/how-does-forgiveness-liberate) |

## Özet

**Stating that forgiveness liberates a person both mentally and physically, Psychiatrist Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan said, "Forgiveness is not just a spiritual or philosophical concept; it is a neurobiological process. It regulates the brain's stress system and balances cortisol secretion." **

**Tarhan added, "We now know that forgiveness heals not only the soul but also the body."**

## İçerik

![](https://cdn.uha.com.tr/content/images/tt-260112105920.png)

Üsküdar University Founding Rector, Psychiatrist Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan, evaluated the topic of forgiveness and the psychology of forgiveness on the 'Nevzat Tarhan ile Akla Ziyan' program broadcast on EKOTÜRK.

## **Revenge behavior is dominant in immature personalities**

Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan stated that people can develop three different reactions to an event or person that makes them feel bad: revenge, avoidance, or forgiveness. He said, "In immature personalities, revenge behavior is dominant. A reaction like 'If they did it to me, I'll do it back' arises. In weak and avoidant personalities, the person distances themselves from the event, going into isolation. Both of these extremes disrupt mental balance. However, in forgiveness, the person analyzes the event, thinks 'How much of it am I responsible for and how much am I not?' and tries to accept the process."

## **Inability to forgive creates a biological burden**

Prof. Dr. Tarhan stated that forgiveness is not only a psychological process but also creates a neurobiological effect that strengthens the immune system. He said, "Emotions such as resentment, anger, hatred, jealousy, and hostility are the 'five dark riders' in the brain. When these emotions are activated, acidic chemicals are secreted in the brain. This weakens the immune system and increases stress hormones. The stomach and intestinal systems are most affected, and skin conditions are seen in depressed individuals. Chronic stress, in the long run, prepares the ground for serious diseases such as cancer."

## **Not forgiving is pride**

Prof. Dr. Tarhan pointed out that some personality structures are resistant to forgiveness and stated that narcissistic and paranoid individuals are among the groups least able to forgive. Prof. Dr. Tarhan said, "Not forgiving is pride. Individuals with narcissistic personality disorder perceive criticism as unfair, hold grudges, and boast about not forgetting. For them, forgiveness is a weakness. However, these individuals experience a lot of chronic stress, and it is not possible to live long with such a mental burden. Paranoid personalities similarly perceive criticism directed at them as a threat. These individuals cannot forget, cannot forgive, and always keep score. This situation, referred to as 'camel's grudge,' damages relationships and destroys trust."

## **If forgiveness is not possible, acceptance is necessary**

Prof. Dr. Tarhan stated that in cases such as betrayal, infidelity, or injustice, forgiveness is not always possible, but a person can lighten their mental burden through "radical acceptance." He said, "Sometimes the other party does not apologize, and there is no situation to forgive. In this case, the person can say, 'Yes, I was wronged. I cannot forgive, but I accept.' This is an emotional closure. The person puts the event in a box, puts it on a shelf, and moves on with their life. Thus, they can manage to forget even without forgiving."

## **Injustice experienced in childhood leaves trauma**

Prof. Dr. Tarhan stated that injustices experienced in childhood leave lasting marks throughout a person's life. He said, "In one incident, a child who was beaten was taken to the police station, and because the person who beat him was a high-ranking official, the child was forced to apologize to him. The child, having wet himself, was made to kiss hands. This event remains like a photograph in the child's mind. However, in later years, this child may develop a strong sensitivity to injustice. Trauma can sometimes also trigger personality maturation." 

## **Forgiveness liberates the person**

Prof. Dr. Tarhan stated that forgiveness liberates a person both mentally and physically. He said, "Forgiveness means breaking free from the chains of the past. When a person forgives, they liberate themselves. A person who does not forgive becomes a prisoner of the past event. Even if the event is over, the mind relives it. Therefore, forgiveness, beyond being a virtue, is the greatest investment one can make in their own health."

## **Forgiveness has an antidepressant effect**

Prof. Dr. Tarhan stated that forgiveness not only mends relationships but also lightens a person's psychological burden, drawing attention to the antidepressant effect of forgiveness in the brain. Prof. Dr. Tarhan said, "A person who forgives sheds their internal burden and becomes free. According to social attachment theory, forgiveness re-establishes trust and strengthens social bonds. Psychologically, it also reduces a person's anxiety and depressive load."

Prof. Dr. Tarhan stated that symptoms of unresolved grief and unfinished trauma are observed in individuals who cannot forgive. He said, "When a person cannot forgive, they relive the trauma over and over again. This is like an open file in the brain. As long as it is not closed, it slows down the mind and emotionally exhausts the person."

## **Forgiveness does not only mean forgiving the other party**

Prof. Dr. Tarhan stated that forgiveness is not only about pardoning the other party but also a process of radical acceptance and self-forgiveness. He said, "For a person to forgive themselves, they must first have self-awareness. If a person attributes every event to someone else, always saying 'they made the mistake, they should apologize,' they cannot complete the forgiveness process. However, a person who can analyze the event and see their own part can succeed in turning trauma into an opportunity."

Prof. Dr. Tarhan also expressed that forgiveness facilitates reconciliation and restructuring in relationships. He said, "If an investment is made in a relationship, it is possible for hatred to turn into love and resentment into trust through forgiveness. This is a result of emotional regulation."

Prof. Dr. Tarhan also drew attention to the neurobiological effect of sincerity in the forgiveness process. He said, "There is a neuroscience of sincerity. Mirror neurons manage our emotional literacy. Highly empathetic people feel what others feel. However, excessive empathy lowers one's self-esteem. If self-perception is too low, depression develops; if it is too high, narcissism develops. Individuals who can establish this balance form healthy bonds."

## **Self-compassion is also an aspect of forgiveness**

Prof. Dr. Tarhan stated that forgiveness creates emotional vulnerability in a person, but when this vulnerability is managed correctly, it is the most effective way to resolve trauma. He said, "A person who cannot forgive cannot close the emotional file between the past and the present."

Prof. Dr. Tarhan emphasized that one aspect of forgiveness is self-compassion. He said, "If a person tends to blame themselves immediately when wronged, they have not developed self-compassion. In self-compassion, there is a 'common humanity value.' No one is infallible. The ability to make mistakes is inherent to humans. If a person can say, 'What did this mistake teach me?', they see the opportunity dimension, not the threat dimension. Individuals who can transform their mistakes can turn negative emotions into positive ones."

## **If a person constantly relives the event in their mind, cortisol secretion increases**

Prof. Dr. Tarhan explained that most people who cannot forgive project emotional burdens from the past onto the first events they encounter. He said, "If a person gets disproportionately angry in traffic, it means they are carrying emotional baggage. They vent their accumulated anger on the first person they encounter. This is also the psychology of lynch culture."

Referring to the physical effects of not forgiving, Prof. Dr. Tarhan said, "If a person constantly relives the event in their mind, cortisol secretion increases. The brain secretes ACTH, stimulating the adrenal gland. Cortisol is pumped, and the body goes into fight mode: vascular resistance increases, muscles contract, blood pressure rises. Some people have a flight response, vessels relax, and blood pressure drops. There are even people who die from sudden stress shock. Deaths without trauma traces in forensic medicine are often due to a cortisol storm."

## **Forgiveness varies by gender…**

Prof. Dr. Tarhan drew attention to the biological foundations of forgiveness across genders. He said, "Women and men secrete different hormones under stress. Oxytocin secretion increases in women, creating calmness and compassion. Vasopressin secretion increases in men, constricting blood vessels, triggering leadership and possessive behavior. Women are more traumatized in internal relationships, men in external relationships. These genetic roles also explain the differences in forgiveness."

## **Forgiveness, a balance between revenge and avoidance**

Prof. Dr. Tarhan stated that ignoring is a form of defense in forgiveness. He said, "Distancing oneself is avoidance behavior. If a person says, 'This person isn't even worth being upset about,' this is a trauma resolution. But if the person constantly thinks about the event, that is isolation. Forgiveness is a balance between revenge and avoidance. Revenge destroys society and disrupts social relationships. If a person harbors their anger for days, they cause the greatest harm to themselves."

Prof. Dr. Tarhan also stated that forgiveness carries a message based on love and value. He said, "To forgive is the message, 'You are important to me, you are valuable.' If the other person can empathize, this strengthens the bonds. However, individuals with weak feelings of compassion and shame cannot forgive. They take pleasure in causing pain to others."

Prof. Dr. Tarhan emphasized that in recent years, forgiveness has ceased to be solely a moral or religious issue and has transformed into a neuroscientific field of study. He said, "Forgiveness is not just a spiritual or philosophical concept; it is a neurobiological process. It regulates the brain's stress system and balances cortisol secretion. Numerous scientific publications on forgiveness have emerged in the last 10 years. Because we now know that forgiveness heals not only the soul but also the body."

## **Forgiveness is a virtue learned at both family and societal levels**

Prof. Dr. Tarhan pointed out that forgiveness is a virtue learned at both family and societal levels. He said, "Just as parents are forgiving within the family, children adopt this as a role model. The same applies to society. If the leader is forgiving, society is forgiving; if the leader is resentful, society also becomes resentful. In other words, both forgiveness and deceit are contagious. Role models have a great influence on shaping societal values."

## Akademik Referans

DOI: [https://doi.org/10.32739/uha.id.66051](https://doi.org/10.32739/uha.id.66051)

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