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title: "The origin of narcissism is shaped in childhood!"
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# The origin of narcissism is shaped in childhood!

## Bilgi

| Özellik | Değer |
|---------|-------|
| **Kategori** | saglik |
| **Yayın Tarihi** | 2026-04-15 |
| **Güncelleme** | 2026-04-15 |
| **Kaynak** | [Üsküdar Haber Ajansı](https://uha.com.tr/origin-of-narcissism-shaped-in-childhood) |

## Özet

Experts, stating that narcissism is a personality pattern defined by excessive self-centeredness and insensitivity to the feelings and needs of others, say that this concept should not be used as a superficial labeling tool.

## İçerik

Psychiatrist Dr. Bahruz Shukurov, pointing out that childhood experiences are effective in the development of narcissism, said, 'At this point, two main models stand out. The first is an overly protective and pampering attitude; the second is emotional deprivation and conditional love.' Dr. Shukurov, stating that narcissistic traits in relationships are not one-sided but often form a mutual dynamic with a 'key-lock' compatibility, conveyed that individuals who cannot set boundaries in such relationships have a more fragile structure, and unbalanced ties can emerge. Dr. Shukurov also emphasized that instead of focusing on change, healthy boundaries should be established with awareness, empathy, and clear communication.

Psychiatrist Dr. Bahruz Shukurov from Üsküdar University NPİSTANBUL Hastanesi, provided information about the developmental causes of narcissism, its dynamic effects in relationships, and how healthy communication can be established when encountering narcissistic traits.

**Apologizing can be perceived as a threat for narcissistic individuals!**

Dr. Bahruz Shukurov, stating that the concept of 'narcissism', frequently used today, can often be approached incorrectly and superficially, said, 'Therefore, instead of using this concept as a 'labeling tool', understanding the underlying dynamics and evaluating how to act when encountering similar traits would be a healthier approach.'

Dr. Shukurov, conveying that narcissism is a personality pattern characterized by excessive self-centeredness, a sense of superiority, and insensitivity to the needs and feelings of others, said, 'These individuals are generally selfish; they tend to feel entitled to everything. They can bend, change, or completely disregard rules. Self-admiration alone is not a negative trait. However, in narcissism, this situation is built upon belittling and devaluing others. Therefore, it corresponds more to the concept of 'arrogance'. While the person sees themselves as superior, they position others below. Another important characteristic is the constant need for approval. Individuals with a narcissistic structure feed their sense of worth not internally, but with external admiration and approval. They have difficulty empathizing; there is a kind of 'blindness' towards the feelings of others. Furthermore, experiencing sincere regret or genuinely apologizing is quite challenging for them. Apologizing can be perceived as a threat to their self-concept.'

**Childhood experiences play a decisive role in the development of narcissism!**

Dr. Bahruz Shukurov, reminding that the concept of 'narcissism' is mythologically based on the story of Narcissus falling in love with his own reflection, said, 'However, what is important here is that the person admires not themselves, but the idealized reflection they have created in their own mind. This is actually an attempt to compensate for a fragile self with an inflated self-perception.'

Although different factors play a role in the development of narcissism, Dr. Shukurov, pointing out that childhood experiences hold a decisive place, continued:

'At this point, two main models stand out. The first is an overly protective and pampering attitude. The child is not allowed to encounter any difficulties, and all their needs are met instantly. This situation prevents the child from developing a realistic self-perception. The second is emotional deprivation and conditional love. The child is accepted not as they are, but only through their achievements and performance. Love is conditional. This makes it difficult for the child to feel valuable.

Especially in early childhood (1-5 years old), it is very important for the child to 'feel felt'. That is, to be understood, listened to, and to see their emotions reciprocated… When this need is not met, the individual develops defense mechanisms in later life to protect their fragile self. Over time, these defenses become an 'armor'. However, this armor not only limits injury; it also limits the capacity for love, intimacy, and emotional connection.'

**Narcissistic relationships are actually a mutual dynamic!**

Dr. Bahruz Shukurov, stating that narcissistic traits, although often seen as a one-sided problem in relationships, actually involve a mutual dynamic, said, 'In such relationships, there is often a 'key-lock' compatibility.'

Dr. Shukurov noted that individuals exhibiting narcissistic traits can more easily form relationships with individuals who constantly blame themselves, struggle to set boundaries, and fear abandonment, stating, 'While the narcissistic person suppresses the fear of abandonment by exhibiting an attitude of 'I don't need anyone'; the other party, conversely, may compromise themselves to hold onto the relationship. While the narcissistic individual exalts themselves to escape feelings of defectiveness/shame; the other party may tolerate negative behaviors with the thought 'I deserve this anyway'. This situation leads to the formation of an unbalanced and unhealthy bond in the relationship. Some individuals may even feel more alone within the relationship than when they are actually alone.'

**The most important point is to stop trying to change the other person!**

Dr. Bahruz Shukurov, addressing how to act when encountering narcissistic traits, said, 'The most important point is to stop trying to change the other person. Because it is not directly possible to change someone. However, changing one's own attitudes can create an indirect effect on the other person.'

Dr. Shukurov, listing the fundamental steps that can be followed at this point, concluded his words as follows:

'Developing awareness is important. One must first become aware of their own feelings, thoughts, and bodily reactions. Questions like 'What am I feeling right now?', 'How does this situation affect me?' are the first steps to being able to respond healthily.

It is necessary to build empathy, not sympathy. Trying to understand what the other person is feeling is important. However, this does not mean approving of their behavior. Empati, is a tool for giving the right response. If criticism is to be made, it should be directed at the behavior, not the personality. For example, saying 'this behavior affected me in this way' instead of 'you are like this' is more constructive.

A balanced attitude should be adopted. Neither complete submission nor an aggressive stance is a solution. The aim is not to hurt the other party; it is to raise awareness. Soft but clear communication should be established. Boundaries should be clearly expressed; however, harsh and aggressive language should not be used in this process. Harsh reactions can further strengthen narcissistic defenses.'

## Akademik Referans

DOI: [https://doi.org/10.32739/uha.id.88847](https://doi.org/10.32739/uha.id.88847)

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