--- title: "Our Mistakes, A Part of Growth" description: "Üsküdar Üniversitesi Founding Rector Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan wrote this week on the Hürriyet Aile column about the topic “Our Mistakes, A Part of Growth.”" url: https://uha.com.tr/our-mistakes-a-part-of-growth type: article language: en last_updated: 2026-02-27 category: haber --- ## Kaynak ve Yayıncı Bilgisi Bu içerik, Üsküdar Haber Ajansı (ÜHA) tarafından üretilmiş ve yayımlanmıştır. Kaynak: https://uha.com.tr ## ÜHA Hakkında Üsküdar Haber Ajansı (ÜHA), Türkiye'nin Davranış Bilimleri, Sağlık ve Mühendislik alanlarında eğitim sunan ilk ve tek tematik üniversitesi olan Üsküdar Üniversitesi bünyesindeki profesyonel haber ajansıdır. 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İçerik, Üsküdar Üniversitesi'nin resmi yayın organı olan ÜHA tarafından profesyonel gazetecilik standartlarında üretilmiştir. # Our Mistakes, A Part of Growth ## Bilgi | Özellik | Değer | |---------|-------| | **Kategori** | haber | | **Yayın Tarihi** | 2021-07-05 | | **Güncelleme** | 2026-02-27 | | **Kaynak** | [Üsküdar Haber Ajansı](https://uha.com.tr/our-mistakes-a-part-of-growth) | ## Özet **Üsküdar Üniversitesi Founding Rector and Psychiatrist Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan penned an article this week for the Hürriyet Aile column on the topic 'Our Mistakes, A Part of Growth.'** ## İçerik ![](https://cdn.uskudar.edu.tr/uploads/images/2021/07/05/800/prof-dr-nevzat-tarhan-1.JPG) Life does not come with an instruction manual. Making mistakes is a part of life. We all can make mistakes. The important thing is to learn from those mistakes. Our mistakes are a part of growth. Growing through our mistakes is very valuable. We must understand their worth. The ability to learn distinguishes humans from other living beings. Interestingly, animal offspring are born having already learned what to do, but human children are born to learn. They learn everything in the world, and in life, 30-40% of what we learn and what makes us who we are is genetic. 60-70% is related to social learning. We learn 60-70% of all our skills later in life, including our personality structure, psychological development process, relationships with people, social skills, from language skills to walking skills. Our life guides become our mothers and fathers. They are our first guides. If they are good guides, the child is luckier. They learn many things more easily and make fewer mistakes. There are three types of learning. In the first learning model, a person makes a mistake and learns not to make the same mistake again. For example, a child touches a stove, gets burned. They won't touch it again. Even if we try to make them touch it, they won't go near it. This is an expensive method. However, we cannot learn everything by trial and error. We may not have the opportunity for that. **Intelligent people benefit from the experiences of others** So what does an intelligent person do? They benefit from the experiences of others. For example, what does a child do? They benefit from the teachings of their mother, father, and elders; if they follow them accordingly, they progress in life with fewer stumbles or without constant falling. However, progressing without any stumbles is impossible. If you are learning to swim, you won't learn without swallowing some water. If you are learning to ski, you won't learn without falling. This is a part of growth and development: stumbling, making mistakes, and getting hurt. Therefore, the important thing is to be able to learn lessons from them. **The biggest obstacle to growth is egocentricity** There is also a third group of learning, which is actually the inability to learn. Some people make a mistake but learn no lesson from it. They make it again, and again, and again, repeating the same mistake for years. These are people who follow their own nose. If a person's ego is high, if they think 'I am the best, I am great, I know everything,' they don't want to learn anyway. They lack the mental flexibility to learn and don't feel the need to develop themselves. Therefore, the biggest enemy to growth is egocentricity. While guiding the child, parents should show them the way but be careful to avoid being overly interventionist. The child, in turn, should accept the leadership of their parents. Parents should allow the child to be free without harming their sense of belonging to the family. **'Stress vaccine' should be developed against life's difficulties** Just as children are vaccinated against diseases they may encounter in life, a vaccine against the difficulties and stresses they will face also needs to be developed for them. A stress vaccine is learned through experience. Therefore, they will experience stress, make mistakes, and learn. They will fall, hurt their foot, and learn. They will catch a cold, get sick, and learn. For this reason, the duty of parents is not to over-control the child but to control them from a distance. It is important to make the child feel that you are there for them and to allow them opportunities for progress and growth. Family guidance is very important. Children raised in broken homes grow up without guidance. Popular culture raises children. Currently, social media is the guide for children. Social media is a system established according to the consumption economy of the capitalist system. Within the earn-consume cycle, it disrupts the brain's reward-punishment system, turning individuals into consuming beings. Therefore, it is important for parents to set an example for their children here. **We cannot know everything** Humans are on a journey of discovery throughout life. We cannot know everything, can we? First, we must accept this: We cannot know everything. People with high egos and arrogance lose from the start. They think they know everything. They devote all their energy to a single goal they set, but they end up alone due to their sense of superiority in social relationships. After retiring, when they are no longer as powerful or receive as much applause, they feel an immense sense of loneliness. This makes them easily fall into depression. They retire and immediately collapse. **A balance must be established between malevolent and benevolent emotions** It is important for a person to be at peace with themselves. We must establish our relationship with ourselves correctly. There is a benevolent and a malevolent part within all of us. Old psychological understanding did not accept the malevolent part within us. After the 1990s, when neuroscience-based psychology emerged, the scientific categorization of emotions became a topic of discussion. We have emotions classified as the 'five horsemen of darkness': grudges, anger, hatred, jealousy, and hostility. These are our malevolent emotions. And there are benevolent emotions, which are their counterparts. Our consciousness will establish a balance between these benevolent and malevolent emotions. **The biggest mistake is to do nothing** The frontal lobe, the front region of the brain, is the brain's command center. Someone who learns to manage it can succeed in life without making major mistakes. Is it possible not to make mistakes? It is not. Fearing mistakes is a bigger mistake. Fearing mistakes leads to the mistake of doing nothing. The biggest mistake is being unable to do anything. Someone who fears making mistakes cannot take risks. And without taking risks, there is no investment or success. Therefore, a person needs to learn how to calculate risk. Controllable risk is beneficial. Every risk also carries an opportunity. It is necessary to question whether these opportunities are in the right place, at the right time, and in the right way. What will happen for this? We will benefit from the experiences of others. We will benefit from the life stories of exemplary people in life. We will benefit from the wise people around us. **Mistakes are part of growth** If you are afraid of making mistakes, you cannot progress. The important thing is to learn from that mistake and not fall into the same error a second time. We should be able to say, “What did this mistake teach me?” The biggest mistake is the mistake of doing nothing. Then development stops, growth stops. It is the biggest mistake humanity can make. Progress is only possible if humanity can learn from its mistakes and correct them. It is so in the universe and in quantum dynamics. Mistakes, shortcomings, errors, and evils are part of growth in quantum dynamics. [HÜRRİYET AİLE](https://www.hurriyet.com.tr/aile/yazarlar/nevzat-tarhan/hatalarimiz-buyumenin-bir-parcasi-41846798) --- *Kaynak: [Üsküdar Haber Ajansı](https://uha.com.tr) — https://uha.com.tr/our-mistakes-a-part-of-growth*