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title: "Parents as Good Role Models Lead to Strong Character in Children"
description: "Psychiatrist Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan stated that spiritual needs are also an important requirement in a child's development."
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last_updated: 2026-02-26
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# Parents as Good Role Models Lead to Strong Character in Children

## Bilgi

| Özellik | Değer |
|---------|-------|
| **Kategori** | haber |
| **Yayın Tarihi** | 2020-12-16 |
| **Güncelleme** | 2026-02-26 |
| **Kaynak** | [Üsküdar Haber Ajansı](https://uha.com.tr/parents-good-role-models-strong-child-character) |

## Özet

**Psychiatrist [Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan](https://www.nevzattarhan.com), stating that spiritual needs are also a requirement in a child's development, said that spiritual values should be imparted to the child through parents acting as role models. Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan, emphasizing that spiritual education is conscience education, says, "If parents can be good role models, the child's personality development, behavioral development, and character building will all be healthy."**

## İçerik

![](https://cdn.uskudar.edu.tr/uploads/images/2020/12/16/800/mehy5764.JPG)

Üsküdar Üniversitesi Founding Rector, Psychiatrist Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan, stated that spiritual needs are also an important requirement in a child's development.

Making important assessments in the program he attended on TRT Radyo 1, Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan stated that in recent years, there have been studies focusing on the 0-6 age range, even 0-3 years, in the field of child neurosciences and child development globally and in our country. Tarhan said; "As a university, we also established the Mother Baby Mental Health Research and Application Center. It is necessary to develop national policies specifically for this period. We have very good national policies regarding a child's growth, vaccinations, and physical health, but policies related to a child's mental health and healthy development from birth are not sufficient. Studies have been conducted, efforts have been made, but they haven't been put into practice. This is true for the whole world."

## **Human Infants Develop After Birth**

Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan noted that studies conducted worldwide show that the information a child learns between 0-3 years old is more than what they learn throughout their entire life, stating, "Human infants are born prematurely. They are different from animal offspring. Animal offspring, let's say a duckling, can swim immediately after birth. Other animals grow quickly right after birth. For example, a foal can walk immediately, but humans walk at one year old. They can distinguish right from wrong at 15 years old. Humans are born with an infinite capacity to learn. They have the ability to learn, speak, and develop abstract thought, but they only transition from concrete to abstract thinking at 6 years old."

## **Trust Relationship is Very Important Between 0-6 Years Old**

Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan noted that the 0-6 age period is very important in child education, stating, "During this period, the child absolutely needs to establish a stable, consistent, and continuous trust relationship. There is a need for a trust object. This is mostly the mother. That's why there is a maternal hormone, oxytocin. Oxytocin hormone is secreted more in breastfeeding mothers. Consider the relationship between mother and child, what a strong relationship, what a bond there is. There is that bond of trust. A mother sees her child as a part of her body. That is a requirement of our biological nature."

## **The Brain is the Connecting Organ from the Spiritual to the Material World**

Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan noted that functions like vision in the brain develop through a network, and learning is effective in this, stating the following:

"They tape the eyes of mice shut as soon as they are born. They open them after one, three, or six months. When the eyes are opened at one or three months, the mouse can learn to see, but if opened after six months, the mouse can no longer see. Because no light stimulus comes in, the visual network in the brain does not develop. Even though the eye is healthy and the brain is healthy, it cannot see because the pathways have not developed. We attribute all of life to network development in the brain. The network model explains human behavior and our spiritual structure. In other words, the brain is the connecting organ of our spiritual structure from the world of meaning to the world of matter."

Tarhan noted that brain development is very important, stating, "Why is brain development important? These are currently being considered concretely. How is a child's way of thinking and imagination? Children cannot think abstractly; they think concretely. If we want to teach them the concept of God, they will concretely imagine it as a big person, bearded, male, like a grandfather. They immediately concretize it. The ability to abstract is related to the level of development. This is also true in the development of religions. Primitive religions make their Gods earthly Gods. They create idols, make totems, and worship them. This happens in undeveloped societies. Developed societies do not concretize God."

## **It is Necessary to Teach the Concept of the Sacred to Children During This Period**

Stating that "society and humanity develop just as the individual does," Tarhan said, "Believing in an abstract power requires mental effort and exertion. Believing in an unseen power. That is why one of the six pillars of faith is to believe in the unseen. So, believing in the unseen is related to the level of development, but if you sanctify a power to be worshipped like an earthly God, you revert to ancient times. That is why it is related to the period of development. The child also passes through this period quickly. Parents need to teach the child the concept of the sacred during this period. There is a genetic predisposition in every human to believe in sacredness."

## **Spiritual Education is Conscience Education**

Tarhan stated that the capitalist system teaches money as sacred and noted that the child should be taught the feeling of faith correctly. Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan said the following: "Abstract reasoning skills develop in children around 6-7 years old. If we teach the concept of the sacred as an unseen power that always sees us, always observes our mistakes, good and beautiful deeds, and records them, the child also develops a sense of spiritual accountability. Giving spiritual education to a child actually means conscience education. What is conscience education? Humans have a responsibility towards laws. This is called jurisprudence. Humans also have a responsibility towards the society and cultural structure they live in. We cannot go out in pajamas. We cannot mock a person's privacy or sacred beliefs. They have dignity. These are social norms. And we also have conscientious norms, which are called morality. This is also very important in a child's spiritual education."

## **It is Necessary to Teach Children a Firm Belief**

Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan stated that it is necessary to teach children a firm belief, saying, "If we don't teach a firm belief and instead teach a vague concept of God, the child then sees that concept of God as a God without compassion. After reaching adolescence, the child views their belief in God as a burden. They can easily become a child who is against religious values. It is necessary to explain God not as a punishing entity, but without forgetting that God is a being whose mercy is greater. It is necessary to teach compassion."

## **Religious Values Should Be Taught with Fun and Discipline**

Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan highlighted that pedagogical methods emphasize giving punishment through deprivation of reward rather than solely punishment, stating, "Especially nowadays, there should be a fun and disciplined, experiential learning method, and religious values should be taught to children in this way. When teaching religious values, we first need to teach the concept of God. A child is a questioning being. Let them ask, let's not be afraid. If we don't know, we can say, 'I don't know this, let me research and learn. Then I'll get back to you.' Because a questioning child is a good child. This way, a child with a firm belief who can act upon what they believe will emerge," he said.

Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan stated that when spiritual education is mentioned, a formal spiritual education is always understood, saying, "A general characteristic of children aged 0-6 is egocentrism. They think the world revolves around them. Therefore, a characteristic of this child is that they think concretely, and this is an advantage for the child. Before the age of 10, a child is open to believing everything without questioning. Especially if they grow up in a nurturing environment, they imitate those they trust without questioning. They learn through imitation and repetition. In other words, after six or seven years old, children start to learn more by questioning. Therefore, we can convey and teach religious and spiritual education to children more through our actions than through what we say."

## **If Parents are Good Role Models, the Child's Personality Development Will Be Healthy…**

Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan stated that children model their mothers and fathers during this period, saying the following: "The fear of losing their mother, the fear of losing loved ones, if someone close to them has died, they may experience fear; currently, there is fear due to Covid. In such a situation, how should we behave towards the child? The child looks to the parents. However they behave, the child will behave similarly. Because before the age of 10, parents are largely the child's primary teachers. In other words, their primary guides. The teacher at school is their secondary guide. If parents can be good role models, the child's personality development, behavioral development, and character building will all be healthy. There is no need for a special plan to educate the child; it is said that 'the child will be as you are.' This is very important."

## **Children are Not Growing Up in a Safe Environment**

Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan stated that children are not growing up in a safe environment, especially due to technology, saying, "Currently, due to the influence of popular culture, and the open door provided by smartphones and televisions, children can no longer grow up in the old safe environment. There is no longer a safe environment in the streets or neighborhoods. All positive and negative things can enter our private lives simultaneously. Therefore, being a role model is important when teaching this culture to children. Children learn by modeling their parents. There is a formal aspect of religion, which is the part involving worship; this is its outward form. And there is the content, meaning the inside of the envelope. An orange has a peel and an inside. Why is the peel important? Because it protects the inside. When the peel is removed, it doesn't last long. That peel is actually for the inside. Currently, religious practices and worship rituals are formally beneficial and necessary to protect our beliefs. But the real purpose is the essence. And the essence is morality."

Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan, stating that "the most important part of the concept we call spiritual education is conscience education, which is morality," said the following: "In people who do not believe in an unseen power, a sense of accountability may not develop. For this reason, secular systems have never been able to establish a moral understanding. They say everyone has their own morality. They cannot agree on a global, common morality because they cannot regulate the sense of accountability. You are accountable to laws, to customs and traditions, but for example, in ancient Sparta, it was said that theft was allowed as long as you weren't caught. Why? Because there are no conscientious norms. There is no internal jury in the person. No prohibitor in their heart. No conscientious guardian. Just as a person has benevolent feelings, they also have malevolent feelings. Morality is an education that can tell you to continue benevolent feelings and not to engage in malevolent ones. This is taught at a young age. Concepts like 'shameful,' 'lie,' and 'sin' are always taught at a young age. What happens to a child who doesn't learn this? You raise a shameless, disrespectful, irresponsible child. One of the most important aspects of spiritual education here is to raise a social child. Let them be themselves, but also be a part of the social structure. This needs to be taught to the child, meaning, 'You have a responsibility towards your homeland, a responsibility towards your family, a responsibility towards your Creator.' As Rumi also said, 'We are not living in this world, we are passing through it.'"

## **Beliefs and Cultures Are Learned Through Experience**

 Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan stated that the belief in the afterlife should also be given to the child, saying, "When a child thinks, they can develop a solution for death in their mind, they can provide an explanation for death. Otherwise, they cannot explain death. When you tell a child in their world, 'After you die, you cease to exist, everything ends,' that child thinks, 'Then why should I live?' even with a small tension. Suicide incidents are frequently observed in societies without a belief in the afterlife. In these societies, even though education is very strong, suicide rates are high, for example. The highest suicide rates in the world are in Japan and Korea. These are high numbers even compared to Europe. The reason is that they lack teachings about life after death. In the coming days, a global suicide pandemic is approaching. Suicide and loneliness are currently at the forefront. Therefore, one of the important things we need to focus on is teaching children the correct philosophy of life. We are focused on academic success in children. They want their child to be diligent, to be intelligent. You see, these are the mother's high ideals. These are ego ideals. However, while it's good for them to be diligent and intelligent, should they also be a good person or a bad person? It is also necessary to teach them to be a good person. This is the most beautiful spiritual education: raising a child who keeps their word, doesn't lie, respects the rights of others, but can also defend their own rights. Children don't learn these through lectures. Beliefs and culture are learned through experiences. They are learned through stories. We will teach these to our children by letting them experience and showing them. Spending time with a child is the best spiritual education. It is important to be able to teach children firm beliefs during playtime and conversations," he said.

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