--- title: "Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan: “Family relationships should be complementary, not competitive”" description: "The 4th International Loneliness Symposium, organized by Üsküdar University, is being held this year with the main theme of “Family and Loneliness.”" url: https://uha.com.tr/prof-dr-nevzat-tarhan-family-relationships-should-be-complementary-not-competiti type: article language: en last_updated: 2026-02-26 category: haber --- ## Kaynak ve Yayıncı Bilgisi Bu içerik, Üsküdar Haber Ajansı (ÜHA) tarafından üretilmiş ve yayımlanmıştır. Kaynak: https://uha.com.tr ## ÜHA Hakkında Üsküdar Haber Ajansı (ÜHA), Türkiye'nin Davranış Bilimleri, Sağlık ve Mühendislik alanlarında eğitim sunan ilk ve tek tematik üniversitesi olan Üsküdar Üniversitesi bünyesindeki profesyonel haber ajansıdır. 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İçerik, Üsküdar Üniversitesi'nin resmi yayın organı olan ÜHA tarafından profesyonel gazetecilik standartlarında üretilmiştir. # Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan: “Family relationships should be complementary, not competitive” ## Bilgi | Özellik | Değer | |---------|-------| | **Kategori** | haber | | **Yayın Tarihi** | 2022-12-07 | | **Güncelleme** | 2026-02-26 | | **Kaynak** | [Üsküdar Haber Ajansı](https://uha.com.tr/prof-dr-nevzat-tarhan-family-relationships-should-be-complementary-not-competiti) | ## Özet **The 4th International Loneliness Symposium, organized by Üsküdar University, is being held this year with the main theme of “Family and Loneliness.” Making the opening speech of the symposium, Üsküdar University Founding Rector, Psychiatrist Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan, emphasized the effects of loneliness on the family. Stating, “We need to protect the family and keep family values alive,” Tarhan said, “When we look at family values, we can say that the most important value is sharing. Family relationships should be complementary, not competitive. The family relationship offered to us by modernism is based on competitiveness.” The symposium, attended by 30 prominent figures in their fields from 8 countries, will last two days under the coordination of Prof. Dr. Ebulfez Süleymanlı.** ## İçerik ![](https://cdn.uskudar.edu.tr/uploads/images/2022/12/07/800/toplu-3.JPG) ** **In the symposium held on December 7-8, 2022, the loneliness felt in contemporary families and the effects of technology on loneliness are being discussed with the participation of scientists and academicians from France, Austria, Kazakhstan, Azerbaijan, Kyrgyzstan, Uzbekistan, and Turkey. ## ![](https://cdn.uskudar.edu.tr/uploads/images/2022/12/07/800/prof-dr-nevzat-tarhan3.JPG) ## **Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan: “Loneliness is a serious and global problem”** Üsküdar University Founding Rector, Psychiatrist Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan, began his speech at the opening ceremony of the symposium held at Üsküdar University Central Campus Nermin Tarhan Conference Hall, emphasizing that loneliness is a very serious global problem. Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan stated, “There are very serious findings regarding loneliness. In 2018, before the pandemic, the University of Manchester and the BBC conducted a joint study on approximately 50,000 people. In that study, 27% of the population over 75 years old and 40% of the population between 16-24 years old said, ‘I am very lonely.’ A very surprising result emerged. It is highly probable that those rates have now increased. Loneliness in old age is the biggest problem; suicides among the elderly have increased. A Ministry of Loneliness has been established in Japan due to the significant increase in suicides.” ## **Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan: “Japan sought a solution to loneliness with a ‘Chat Room’”** Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan stated that they participated in the N20 Neuroscience Summit, which was held in Osaka as part of the G20 just before the pandemic in 2019. He said, “While walking down the street, we saw a room with ‘chat room’ written on it. We wondered why such a room existed and asked. Two people who didn't know each other would enter the room, chat, and then leave. We learned that it was a project created as a solution to loneliness. Technology has never entered human life as much as it has during this period. It is very important for sociology to address this issue as it is a field of interest.” ## ![](https://cdn.uskudar.edu.tr/uploads/images/2022/12/07/800/img-5814.JPG) ## **Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan: “Technology accelerated loneliness”** Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan stated that they researched ‘Where is society heading globally?’, published their findings, and hoped that those who determine social policies would take them into account. He said, “In our studies, we observed that technology facilitated human life but accelerated loneliness. Another study conducted in America tracked face-to-face meeting rates among 6th, 9th, and 12th-grade students. The proportion of young people who said ‘we meet face-to-face every day’ decreased to below 30% over the years, in the period from 1980 to 2015. Nowadays, there is no longer true social interaction. There are only meetings under the guise of sociability on certain topics. Unsafe relationships are emerging, with people changing identities and using different names.” ## **Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan: “With smartphones, the home ceased to be a safe space”** Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan pointed out that smartphones have turned homes from safe environments into unsafe ones and continued his words as follows: “Social norms in society were the walls that protected society, but those walls have collapsed. The family was the last safe space in terms of security. That too was destroyed by modern technologies, because social norms and family norms changed. Now, human norms have also begun to change. A new type of human awaits us in the future. It is no longer surprising to say that the world is heading towards digital dictatorship. In this framework, a human-focused world should be built, not a human-centered one. We don't say human-centered because humans, due to their free will, destroy nature and do not think about future generations. This loneliness study is not for our generation but for future generations. We need to take precautions now against the dangers awaiting our future generations. We intervene very well when a crisis occurs, but we are very weak in preventive interventions to avert a crisis. Unfortunately, this is a characteristic of Eastern societies.” ## **Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan: “Hedonism and narcissism combined lead to loneliness”** Emphasizing that societies are heading towards storms and that social scientists and psychologists should ponder on how to prevent societies from being caught in these storms, Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan said, “A syndrome related to this is described in America. It's called the California Syndrome because it's where loneliness is most felt in the world. Homeless people live under Facebook's building in San Francisco. Despite income inequality, it is very difficult to find homeless people in Turkey. This is not often seen in Eastern societies. If precautions are not taken, we cannot know what will happen in the future. The French Revolution began as a result of extreme income inequality. The California Syndrome has four characteristics. Its first characteristic is hedonism. Hedonism presented the pursuit of pleasure as an ego ideal, and we started to see its examples more clearly. It was less common before. People see everything that takes away their pleasure as a threat. In third-generation psychotherapies, it is tried to teach that these obstacles are not threats but opportunities. Another consequence of hedonism is egocentrism. Narcissism is also seen here. The person thinks that the world revolves around them, seeing their own interest as the sole highest value. When hedonism and narcissism are combined, loneliness emerges as a result.” ## **Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan: “Loneliness is the fate of self-centered individuals”** Stating that loneliness is the fate of self-centered individuals, Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan said, “Humans are relational beings, and one of their greatest needs is relationships. The need for relationships has a genetic dimension. There is a naturally occurring hormone related to the need for relationships. This hormone is oxytocin. Oxytocin hormone is secreted most in breastfeeding mothers. It is also called the bonding and love hormone. In Switzerland, they produce and sell oxytocin as an artificial spray. Married couples spray this into their noses before sleeping to embrace each other more intimately. A person can actually make their own brain produce this hormone naturally.” ## **Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan: “Narcissism is a type of social cancer”** Pointing out that individualism and autonomization are encouraged in this era, Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan said, “But this does not mean irresponsibility. People need to learn the balance between freedom and responsibility. While saying ‘I am free,’ one should both belong to the family and be able to be free. In other words, people should be able to establish this balance. Freedom should not mean boundlessness and irresponsibility. The freest cell is a cancer cell. Those who desire freedom at an anarchic level, like a cancer cell, lead to a type of social cancer. Narcissism is a type of social cancer. They erode the social structure and cause it to collapse. To eliminate loneliness, egocentrism needs to be corrected. When hedonism, narcissism, and loneliness come together, they become a dark triad, leading to unhappiness and depression.” ## **Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan: “Modernism offers us a competitive family relationship”** Stating that antidepressants have been found in the sewers of Manhattan, Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan concluded his words as follows: “They see antidepressants flowing like water in the sewers. We shouldn’t be deceived by Hollywood movies. People are trying to sustain themselves with medication. We can understand that the current cruel, competitive, and egocentric system does not make people happy. People now need to learn how to form healthy relationships. This is a global problem. The increase in global suicides is also closely related to this situation. It was very good that our sociology department based this year's symposium theme on the family. Because the family is the last safe space. We say that the family is the last safe haven for young people. We need to protect the family and keep family values alive. When we look at family values, we can say that the most important value is sharing. Family relationships should be complementary, not competitive. The family relationship offered to us by modernism is based on competitiveness. Power and ego battles are experienced with rhetoric like ‘Your money, my money, what you say, what I say.’ Instead, it is necessary to say, ‘Marriage is a ship, and this ship has a goal. For the good of this ship and my children, I can put my own interests aside.’ If you say ‘Me first, then the ship,’ that marriage will not progress healthily; it will become a master-slave relationship. This type of relationship may have worked in the past, and women paid the price for it, but it will not work in this era.” ## ![](https://cdn.uskudar.edu.tr/uploads/images/2022/12/07/800/img-5652.JPG) ## **Prof. Dr. Ebulfez Süleymanlı: “This year, loneliness will be addressed through the institution of family”** Prof. Dr. Ebulfez Süleymanlı, Chairman of the Symposium Organizing Committee and Head of the Department of Sociology at Üsküdar University Institute of Social Sciences (SOBE), stated in his opening speech delivered online from Astana, the capital of the Republic of Kazakhstan, that this year's symposium will address and evaluate loneliness, which has become an important social phenomenon of the modern era, in relation to the institution of family. ## **Prof. Dr. Ebulfez Süleymanlı: “New situations like loneliness within the family have emerged”** Prof. Dr. Ebulfez Süleymanlı stated that throughout history, the institution of family has served to support individuals emotionally and socially by creating a safe space, whereas today it is observed that the family's influence in alleviating individuals' loneliness and insecurities is progressively diminishing. Prof. Dr. Ebulfez Süleymanlı said, “Research shows that, particularly with the penetration of digital technologies into daily life, changing family relationships have led to a decrease in time spent together by family members, transforming into time spent alone. Such examples also point to new situations that can be called loneliness together and loneliness within the family. The relationship between family and loneliness emerges as an important topic that needs to be examined not only from the perspective of digitalization but also from aspects such as migration, gender, old age, education, and so on.” Prof. Dr. Ebulfez Süleymanlı stated that, as in previous years, they conducted a widely participated research in 81 provinces before this year's symposium and would share the results, adding that approximately 30 politicians, scientists, NGO representatives, and artists from 8 different countries will participate as speakers in the symposium. ## ![](https://cdn.uskudar.edu.tr/uploads/images/2022/12/07/800/img-5763.JPG) ## **Technology, family, and loneliness were discussed in the first session** Üsküdar University Rector's Advisor Prof. Dr. Sırrı Akbaba shared his evaluations under the title “Invisible Faces of Loneliness in the Family” in the first session he moderated. Prof. Dr. Sırrı Akbaba stated that a lack of social skills also leads to loneliness. ## ![](https://cdn.uskudar.edu.tr/uploads/images/2022/12/07/800/tuzla-belediye-baskani-dr-sadi-yazici.JPG) ## **Dr. Şadi Yazıcı emphasized the importance of controlled use of technology** Tuzla Mayor Dr. Şadi Yazıcı, in his speech titled “The Effect of Technology on Loneliness in the Family,” emphasized the importance of controlled use, stating that with the development of technology, all its positive and negative effects permeate the family and society. Prof. Dr. Tahire Allahyarova from the Social Research Center of the Presidency of Azerbaijan spoke about the effects of loneliness on Azerbaijani society and the institution of family in her speech titled “Social Variables of Loneliness in Family and Marital Relationships.” Award-winning director Atalay Taşdiken also presented examples from Turkish and world cinema that address themes of migration, urbanization, and loneliness in his presentation titled “Family and Loneliness in Cinema.” ## **Results of Turkey Digitalization and Loneliness Research shared** The “Turkey Digitalization and Loneliness Research Results,” conducted in collaboration with Prof. Dr. Ebulfez Süleymanlı from Üsküdar University and Method Research Company, were also announced at the end of the first session. The study, which included 6,100 participants aged 18-70 across Turkey, attracted attention with its striking results. The first session, broadcast live on Üsküdar University's Youtube account and ÜÜ TV, concluded with the presentation of certificates of appreciation to the participants and a group photo session. ![](https://cdn.uskudar.edu.tr/uploads/images/2022/12/07/800/img-6546.JPG) ![](https://cdn.uskudar.edu.tr/uploads/images/2022/12/07/800/img-6495.JPG) ![](https://cdn.uskudar.edu.tr/uploads/images/2022/12/07/800/img-6463.JPG) ## **Fighting loneliness was discussed** Assoc. Prof. Dr. Melis Oğuz from Beykent University chaired the second session of the first day and shared her presentation titled “Berlin Neukölln Neighborhood Mothers: Strategies of Immigrant Women in Combating Loneliness.” The second session of the symposium featured Prof. Dr. Hasan Bacanlı from Fatih Sultan Mehmet Vakıf University with “The Current State of the Family and Loneliness,” Psychologist Hatice Tongar with “The Loneliness of Generation Z,” Specialist Social Worker Burcu Kılıç Gündüz from Üsküdar State Hospital with “Populated Unpopulated Individuals,” and Kalben Association President Pelin Çalışkanoğlu Ekşi with “The Loneliness of Children Growing Up in Foster Families.” The first day of the symposium concluded with the completion of the second session. ## **Foreign participants will discuss loneliness in the world** On the second day of the symposium, the first session will begin under the chairmanship of Prof. Dr. Ebulfez Süleymanlı. Prof. Dr. Tamara Rostovskaya and Assoc. Prof. Dr. Ekaterina A. Knyazkova from the Institute of Demographic Research at the Federal Research Sociological Center of the Russian Academy of Sciences will participate in the first session with their presentation titled “Loneliness in the Family: Close but Not Together.” Prof. Dr. Nigina Rahimova from Uzbekistan's “Ictimai Fikir” Public Opinion Research Center will present “Is Loneliness a Current Problem for Uzbek Families?”, Prof. Dr. Rita Salmorbekova from the Institute of Philosophy, Law, and Political Studies of the National Academy of Sciences of Kyrgyzstan will present “Loneliness as a Social Problem in Kyrgyzstan,” Assoc. Prof. Dr. Aygun Halilkızı from the Philosophy Department of Baku State University will present “Sociocultural Change and the Problem of Incompatibility as Reasons for Family Isolation: The Case of the Azerbaijani Family,” and Aizhan Duisembayeva from the International Turkic Academy will present “The Problem of Loneliness in Families in Kazakhstan: Socio-Psychological Assessment.” Gözde Courbis Poncet will participate in the first session from France and deliver her presentation titled “Silence Within the Family: Loneliness Experiences of Foreign Nationals Living in France.” ## **Academicians will interpret loneliness from different perspectives** In the second session of the 4th International Loneliness Symposium, Prof. Dr. Cengiz Çakmak from Istanbul University will chair and deliver his speech titled “Microwave and Conservatism in the Digital (Finger) Realm.” Assoc. Prof. Dr. Gülsüm Depeli from Hacettepe University will present “Family as an Ideology of Isolation: Inside and Outside,” Assoc. Prof. Dr. Faruk Yaylacı from Kütahya Dumlupınar University will present “Loneliness as a Desperate Strategy and the Responsibility of Education,” and Assoc. Prof. Dr. Taner Atmaca from Düzce University and Lecturer Ayşegül Övdür Altundal from Bolu Abant İzzet Baysal University will participate in the second session with their presentation titled “Children of Broken Families and Education: Analysis of Various Problems Reflected in Schools.” Psychiatrist Dr. Fatma Tuba Aydın Mentschl, joining the second session from Austria, will make her presentation titled “The Loneliness of Immigrant Children.” The final session of the symposium will be chaired by Prof. Dr. Zafer Danış from Sakarya University. In the third session, Prof. Dr. Gülay Günay from Karabük University will present “Loneliness in Old Age and the Importance of Family as a Social Support System,” Dr. Talip Yiğit from Istanbul 29 Mayıs University will present “The Complexity of Old Age: Is Old Age a Choice or an Objective Reality?”, Dr. Nesim Aylvarcı from Sakarya University will present “Loneliness and Social Isolation in Old Age,” and Dr. Nihan Kalkandeler Özdin from Üsküdar University will deliver her presentation titled “Empty Nest Syndrome.” The 4th International Loneliness Symposium will conclude with the closing speech by Prof. Dr. Ebulfez Süleymanlı, Chairman of the Symposium Organizing Committee. --- *Kaynak: [Üsküdar Haber Ajansı](https://uha.com.tr) — https://uha.com.tr/prof-dr-nevzat-tarhan-family-relationships-should-be-complementary-not-competiti*