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title: "Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan: “Goal-oriented patience is the foundation of psychological resilience”"
description: "Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan, Ümraniye District Directorate of National Education, Ümraniye Municipality, Manager Training Readings, Interview, Narcissism, Material Prosperity, Anger, Emotion"
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# Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan: “Goal-oriented patience is the foundation of psychological resilience”

## Bilgi

| Özellik | Değer |
|---------|-------|
| **Kategori** | haber |
| **Yayın Tarihi** | 2025-04-18 |
| **Güncelleme** | 2026-02-25 |
| **Kaynak** | [Üsküdar Haber Ajansı](https://uha.com.tr/prof-dr-nevzat-tarhan-goal-oriented-patience-is-the-foundation-of-psychological-resilience) |

## Özet

**Üsküdar Üniversitesi Founding Rector, Psychiatrist Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan, was the guest of the “Manager Training Readings” interview organized in cooperation with the Ümraniye District Directorate of National Education and Ümraniye Municipality. Meeting with educators who read Tarhan's book “Being at Peace with Yourself,” Tarhan made important remarks regarding emotion management. He emphasized that narcissism is on the rise. Reminding that despite the increase in material prosperity globally, mental health problems have not decreased, Tarhan also stated that goal-oriented patience is the foundation of psychological resilience. Tarhan highlighted the concepts of negative and positive patience. **

## İçerik

![](https://cdn.uha.com.tr/content/images/ekran-resmi-2025-04-18-193230-250418073411.png)

Üsküdar Üniversitesi Founding Rector, Psychiatrist Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan, Ümraniye District National Education Director Mustafa Sözen, Ümraniye Municipality Deputy Mayor, Ümraniye District Governor's Office Chief Clerk, as well as administrators and educators, attended the interview held at the Ümraniye District Governorship Conference Hall.

Journalist Şaban Özdemir moderated the interview. 

## **“Material prosperity is increasing, but mental problems are not decreasing”**

Emphasizing the increasing prevalence of narcissism, Psychiatrist Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan noted that narcissists make egocentrism a personality trait. Tarhan began his words by saying, “We are trying to understand the root cause of people's problems. Incidents of violence, suicide cases, substance addiction, and loneliness are increasing. We are investigating their root causes. There is a global trend of narcissism starting here. Narcissism has become even more prominent now. That is, a narcissist puts themselves at the center of the world. Egocentrism has become their personality. They place themselves at the center of the world. Such a person does not confront themselves. They do not question themselves. They try to dominate and obtain everything. They crush their spouse, the people at their workplace. The solution to this begins with a person knowing themselves. This is actually not new knowledge; it is ancient knowledge. As humankind acquires many things, they forget this. Looking globally, the level of material prosperity has increased. For example, there is a study conducted in the USA. Between 1950 and 2000, per capita gross national product was around 35 thousand dollars in the 1950s, and now it is around 70 thousand dollars. Material prosperity is increasing, but mental problems are not decreasing. Spiritual prosperity, psychological prosperity is not increasing.” 

![](https://cdn.uha.com.tr/content/images/ekran-resmi-2025-04-18-193131-250418073443.png)

## **“A person cannot be beneficial to others without treating their own narcissism”**

Stating that knowing oneself is important, Prof. Dr. Tarhan talked about emotional intelligence studies. Tarhan said, “The first step in emotional intelligence studies is knowing oneself, that is, having self-awareness. The second step is self-management, managing oneself. The third step is social awareness, which is the skill of empathy. After that comes relationship management. From this perspective, a person who does not know themselves cannot establish healthy relationships. So, for them, this is a core concept. A person cannot be beneficial to others without treating their own narcissism. First, they receive therapy themselves. After that, you can be beneficial to other people. This is a rule in psychiatry. From that aspect, being at peace with oneself is important for protective mental health. For example, it is also important for a person not to get sick. Positive psychology deals with this. The first meeting of this branch of science was held in 2009. Harvard added it as a course in 2015. Yale University added it in 2018. Brussels University added it in 2019. We, as Üsküdar Üniversitesi, added it in 2013…” 

## **“The ancient culture in Anatolia says, ‘Start by fixing yourself to fix the world’”**

Emphasizing the importance of taming one's inner envy, Tarhan said, “When a manager who is not at peace with themselves encounters a problem, they immediately attribute the problem to an external cause. They blame and judge others. They project their inner struggle outward. They harm others. The ancient culture in Anatolia says, ‘Start by fixing yourself to fix the world.’ You cannot fix others without fixing yourself. A man once advised his child, speaking for 3 hours about the virtues of speaking less. The child said, ‘Father, you can't even manage to speak less, look how many hours you've been telling me about this.’ So, we need to start with ourselves. People unknowingly try to correct others by giving well-intentioned conferences and sermons, but the first thing we need to tame is the envy within us. Our inner self is not only composed of positive things; there are also negative ones. There is a dark part within us. This dark part is constantly dark. Unless we tame this part, space for good is not created. This dark part is selfish, insatiable, and greedy. It is like a cancer cell. A cancer cell is also insatiable, irresponsible, and limitless. It is insatiable; it consumes most of the oxygen and glucose entering the body. It is irresponsible because it says, ‘What do I care if the body dies?’ It is limitless; it eats the surrounding tissues. The solution to this is to strengthen the immune system. Just as our physical immune system keeps bad cells or bacteria under control in the body, similarly, there is a malevolent part within us. We need to control that malevolent part by nurturing the benevolent part. This is called the positivism method.” 

![](https://cdn.uha.com.tr/content/images/ekran-resmi-2025-04-18-193149-250418073507.png)

## **“In moments of anger, one must act like a firefighter”**

Speaking about how anger should be managed, Tarhan said, “In moments of anger, one must act like a firefighter. When a fire breaks out, firefighters do not question why the fire started; they first extinguish and cool it. They investigate the cause after the fire has passed and take precautions to prevent the same thing from happening again. In moments of anger, we must first shift our focus of attention. Because at that moment, thinking ‘Why did I get angry?’, ‘Why did they commit this injustice?’ further amplifies our anger. We should ask these questions after the anger has subsided. Then, we can learn something by thinking, ‘Which of my principles was harmed?’, ‘Why was I so angry?’ Thinking about these while angry is like trying to walk with a broken leg. It causes more harm. Then we might do things we regret. Therefore, let's first calm our anger. After calming down, we can understand why we felt that way. Anger is a human emotion. The important thing is to learn how to manage it correctly.”

## **“You should not allow negative emotions to spread to you”**

Speaking about self-perception, Tarhan said, “We all have a level of self. That is, a perception of value that a person holds about themselves. This level of self and self-esteem should be close to each other. Some people are egocentric. In these individuals, self-esteem is above their true level of self. That is, they see themselves as superior to what they are. This is why they always need external validation. They want others to praise them. They try to dominate others. They try to keep their self-esteem high by attaching others to themselves. This is a false self-confidence. These individuals act as if they are confident, but in reality, they are not at peace with themselves. The exact opposite of this situation can also occur. A person's self-perception is below the required level. They feel worthless, see themselves as useless. They constantly complain and cry. They continuously expect attention and support. They are also not at peace with themselves. When establishing relationships with people at these two extremes, certain things need attention. Especially, you should not allow their negative emotions to spread to you. Because these emotions are contagious. They can make you nervous, make you angry. Then you fall into their trap. Because they try to control you with anger.” 

![](https://cdn.uha.com.tr/content/images/ekran-resmi-2025-04-18-193726-250418073745.png)

## **“Goal-oriented patience is the foundation of psychological resilience”**

Referring to the importance of being patient while moving towards a goal with perseverance and determination, Tarhan said, “In psychological resilience training, patience is divided into two: negative patience and positive patience. Negative patience is enduring a disease or misfortune when it comes. That is, showing resistance to a negative situation. Positive patience, on the other hand, is setting a goal and enduring the difficulties encountered until that goal is reached. The person says, ‘I need to endure these difficulties to reach this goal.’ This endurance is not a passive waiting. It is about enduring while making the person one lives with feel that their mistakes are not approved during that process. So, patience is not just withdrawing and waiting silently. In fact, patience is adapting to the speed and rhythm of nature. It is necessary to know where to speed up and where to slow down and to be able to establish this balance. Therefore, active patience is important. This goal-oriented patience is the foundation of psychological resilience. This skill is also called ‘resilience’. Resilience is a well-known and loved concept in our culture. It is even a widely used name in Anatolia. Yılmaz is a person who does not give up, struggles, and is not easily deterred. These individuals have goal-oriented perseverance and determination. If there is no goal, the patience shown is merely endurance. If there is a purpose, such as ‘for my children’ or ‘for my family’, then this patience is meaningful and valuable. Moreover, it is important to be able to say, ‘I am enduring but I do not approve’ while being patient. This kind of goodness is considered a charity. In an environment where people do good to each other, evils naturally decrease. Many tensions experienced today in workplaces, and generally in the country, are actually preventable. When the negative atmosphere in the environment is turned positive, many problems resolve themselves. Our culture, that is, Anatolian culture, is a very strong culture. It carries a great heritage of wisdom and virtue in overcoming difficulties. These values need to be reactivated.” 

## **“Adolescence is a transition period”**

Answering participants' questions, Tarhan drew attention to how communication should be during adolescence. Tarhan said, “Adolescence is a transition period. Here, the child sees themselves as the center of the world. They feel like everyone revolves around them. This is very normal. The child first directs love to themselves. They want everything they wish for; if not, they cry. Then they direct their love to their mother, and as they grow a little older, to their sibling, toys, father, family, and over time, this extends to their country, humanity, and even the creator. That is, as they invest love in the right places, that childhood narcissism is also tempered and balanced. There are two important periods in this development. The first is between 0-3 years old. During this period, there is growth like the blooming of flowers in spring. Brain cells multiply rapidly. If the child grows up in a safe and loving environment during this period, the foundation of their personality is laid solid. The second growth period is adolescence. During this period, the child begins to ask big questions about themselves. ‘Who am I? Where do I belong? What do I want to do?’ They enter a search for identity. They question themselves in every way. The feeling of autonomy also develops during this period. That is, they begin to say, ‘I exist too.’ The thing adolescents need most is to be taken seriously. That is, to make them feel they are growing up. The brain is still developing, trying to find its identity by interacting with its environment and family. If they feel valued during this period, they can also manage their emotions better. For example, using 'I' language instead of 'you' language in communication. Sentences like ‘Why did you do that, does it suit you?’ are 'you' language, which is accusatory. Instead, using expressions like ‘If I were you, I would do this,’ ‘If I were in your place, I would wear this,’ would be much more constructive. This means taking the child by their side and walking together, rather than confronting them and saying, ‘I will correct you.’”

## **“Self-confidence is an indicator of a strong personality”**

Explaining the difference between self-confidence and self-admiration, Tarhan said, “Self-confidence and self-admiration are often confused. There are significant differences between them. What we call self-admiration is a person being infatuated with themselves. Like standing in front of a mirror and saying, ‘Mirror, mirror, on the wall, who is the fairest of them all?’ These types of people appear very self-confident from the outside, but in reality, they have a great sense of deficiency inside. A person tries to complete whatever is missing in their personality. That's why such people are fed by praise. They feel incomplete without receiving appreciation and approval. If they lack self-confidence, they try to fill this void with external admiration. Self-confidence is something else. Someone with true self-confidence does not need the approval of others. They feel adequate as they are. Someone with self-admiration, on the other hand, always expects external appreciation. When praise does not come, their morale drops, and they feel bad. Someone with self-confidence does not fear loneliness. In fact, they sometimes experience chosen solitude. That is, they can say, ‘I am fine on my own.’ Someone with self-admiration always wants to be the center of attention. They always want applause, always want to be praised. People with self-admiration have a fear of being ordinary. That's why they are also very afraid of making mistakes. Sometimes when they make a mistake, they experience a major emotional collapse. They can even enter severe depressions. Someone with self-confidence can find peace whether they are in prison or in a palace. This is authentic happiness. That is, a pure, heartfelt, lasting peace. One should not confuse self-confidence with self-admiration. Self-confidence is an indicator of a strong personality. Self-admiration, on the other hand, is a fragile structure dependent on external approval.” 

![](https://cdn.uha.com.tr/content/images/ekran-resmi-2025-04-18-193209-250418073535.png)

After the interview, Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan was presented with flowers.

![](https://cdn.uha.com.tr/content/images/ekran-resmi-2025-04-18-193244-250418073643.png)

Afterwards, Tarhan signed his books for his readers.

## Akademik Referans

DOI: [https://doi.org/10.32739/uha.id.61468](https://doi.org/10.32739/uha.id.61468)

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