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title: "Prof. Tarhan: “If a therapeutic alliance and trust are established, even small touches can be effective”"
description: "Üsküdar University, Nevzat Tarhan, İyi Gün Psikoloji, Psychology October, Personality Disorder, Personality Organization, Therapy, Childhood Traumas, Trust"
url: https://uha.com.tr/prof-tarhan-therapeutic-alliance-trust-small-touches-effective
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language: en
last_updated: 2026-10-12
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## Üsküdar Üniversitesi
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# Prof. Tarhan: “If a therapeutic alliance and trust are established, even small touches can be effective”

## Bilgi

| Özellik | Değer |
|---------|-------|
| **Kategori** | haber |
| **Yayın Tarihi** | 2026-10-12 |
| **Güncelleme** | 2026-10-12 |
| **Kaynak** | [Üsküdar Haber Ajansı](https://uha.com.tr/prof-tarhan-therapeutic-alliance-trust-small-touches-effective) |

## Özet

**President of Üsküdar University, Psychiatrist Prof. Nevzat Tarhan, participated in an online interview organized by İyi Gün Psikoloji as part of Psychology October. In his talk titled “Understanding Personality Organizations: Therapeutic Attitude in Challenging Clinical Encounters,” Tarhan highlighted the differences between personality trait, personality disorder, and personality organization, emphasizing that the therapy process is a journey of discovery. Tarhan, who also touched upon the effects of childhood traumas on personality development, stated that thought, emotion, and action work together in change. Tarhan also drew attention to the importance of therapeutic alliance, trust, and boundaries in challenging clinical encounters, saying that even small touches can be effective. **

## İçerik

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President of Üsküdar University, Psychiatrist Prof. Tarhan met with psychologists, psychological counselors, and family counselors in the online interview. 

The moderation of the interview was undertaken by Psk. Merie Meryem Samur. 

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## **“A personality trait is an individual's persistent tendencies”**

President of Üsküdar University, Psychiatrist Prof. Nevzat Tarhan, stated that in the evaluation of personality disorders, diagnosis should not be turned into a label for the individual. Tarhan said; “Currently, a patient comes from colleagues. They call the patient 'second axis.' It means they lack empathy by stating characteristics like borderline, obsessive personality, histrionic. Second axis B cluster, B cluster disorder. When you say that, we are in a way labeling the patient. However, on the one hand, you are giving medication to the person. If it's a personality disorder, it won't be corrected with medication. Many mood disorder cases are misdiagnosed as personality disorders, and patients are unfairly labeled. Therefore, personality structure is one thing, personality disorder is another, and personality organization is yet another. There is a conceptual confusion here. A personality trait is an individual's persistent tendencies. They are meticulous, shy, competitive. However, a person with a personality trait can question themselves when criticized, and is open to change and renewal. In personality disorders, personality patterns become rigid, and significant difficulties arise in the person's life.”

## **If a person knows these, it means they know their own personality organization **

Tarhan stated that personality organization is a psychodynamic concept; “Personality organization describes what is structured beneath a person's visible behavior. How well does the person know themselves, do they know themselves consistently, can they recognize the boundaries between their own personality and the good and challenging aspects of others? Do they know which defenses they resort to when faced with intense emotions? If a person knows these, it means they know their own personality organization. This is not a personality disorder; it is the person being aware of their own personality traits. When we say ‘This person has a borderline personality organization,’ it does not mean they have a borderline personality disorder. The person is aware of their borderline characteristics and is open to therapeutic communication regarding this organization. Therefore, when we say ‘borderline personality organization,’ we are not labeling the patient. Saying someone has a narcissistic personality organization does not mean they have a narcissistic personality disorder. Here, we use this as part of a clinical evaluation rather than a diagnostic category.”

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## **“Every human is a universe”**

Tarhan emphasized that the therapy process is a journey of discovery; “If we approach with prejudice, the other person becomes defensive. They say, ‘They didn't understand me, they immediately labeled me, they didn't listen to me properly.’ However, when we embark on a therapeutic journey, we embark on a journey of discovery. Just as we go exploring in a forest, in the therapy process, we embark on the client's inner journey. We try to get to know them. A person is like a puzzle, and every human is a universe. Therefore, instead of labeling them while journeying within them, it is necessary to look at what is dominant in their personality organization and to understand whether their identity integrity is in place. When someone you are close to, love, and value disappoints you, do all your thoughts about them change, do you instantly erase them, or can you carry your love and anger together? If you instantly erase someone you love very much when they make a mistake, we can most likely speak of borderline traits. However, if you can carry both love and anger together, if you think, ‘They made this mistake, but is it something temporary, are they upset, is there another reason outside of me?’, it means you can look with a third eye. This is related to identity integrity.”

## **“Being able to carry positive and negative aspects simultaneously is personality integrity”**

Tarhan stated that reactions to challenging emotions are also important for understanding personality integrity; “Challenging emotions arise for all of us. Some, when a challenging emotion arises, tend to avoid, immediately abandoning it. Some confront it, fight. Some remain calm, trying to understand the situation. They think, ‘Which principle was violated, which principle was damaged, in which dynamic did this occur?’ and try to discover and understand. If they completely reject something, they are applying splitting. They immediately split the positive and negative aspects between themselves and others. Personality disorders can emerge this way. Being able to carry positive and negative aspects simultaneously is personality integrity. Personality integrity means a kind of maturation of personality organization. The therapist must also be able to do this. While establishing a therapeutic relationship with their patient, sometimes patients anger you, get on your nerves, devalue you. In such situations, if you immediately buy into it, the patient will have manipulated you. Therefore, in such situations, it is very important to state that we are trying to understand them.”

## **“Childhood traumas are not destiny”**

Tarhan also touched upon the effects of childhood traumas on personality development; “We evaluate childhood traumas routinely in almost every patient. There are situations such as physical abuse, physical neglect, emotional abuse, and emotional neglect. Telling a child, ‘If you don't do this, I won't love you,’ using love like a stick, is emotional abuse. Raising a child by frightening them also falls under emotional abuse. The child does not know life, does not know fear. If you frighten them with supernatural powers or false dangers, they become a child who fears life. In the future, they may make decisions based on fears, not facts. In emotional neglect, one of the children growing up in the same house may receive a lot of attention while the other may be ignored. The child thinks they are not loved. In fact, the parents may love them but do not express love. There are love languages such as giving gifts, warm contact, smiling, kind words, loving glances, making sacrifices, and service behavior. When the child cannot see these, they cannot understand what their mother and father love or dislike, and emotional neglect develops. Excessive control and protection can also make the child unable to overcome life's difficulties. However, childhood traumas are not destiny. If the person becomes aware of the trauma and tries to correct it, if they can set boundaries by saying, ‘I love you, but doing this is not right,’ they can change the effects of this trauma.”

## **“Thought, emotion, and action work together”**

Tarhan emphasized that thought, emotion, and action should be evaluated together in personality formation; “Personality disorders are very closely related to genetic polymorphism. Some people have addiction genes. Some genes put a person in the risk group, but we don't call them sick, we say they are in the risk group. We say, ‘This gene has a predisposition, if you learn stress management, this gene works normally. In situations like stress, insomnia, substance use, these genes shut down, and the disease emerges.’ If therapy is done along with medication, if the person learns stress management, gets to know themselves, recognizes their genetic tendencies, they can stop the medication over time. In most therapies, we actually correct the person's epigenetic mechanisms, turning gene expressions from pathological to healthy. When a person believes in something, when they develop a behavior, it becomes a habit as they repeat it. A thought comes to mind; when emotion is added to the thought, that thought turns into a belief. This belief is like pressing the 'enter' key in the computer's brain. If continued for six weeks, it becomes a habit; if repeated for six months, it becomes a personality. For some, it can take three months, for others, nine to ten months, or a year. Here, thought and emotion come before behavior. We have such an algorithm in our brain; our brain works this way.”

## **“We need to give a reason to change”**

Tarhan stated that emotion must be added to thought for insight to turn into behavioral change; “The person has insight, is aware, but cannot correct it. For them to correct it, they must definitely add emotion to that thought, that awareness. The logical and emotional sides of our brain work together. If the person believes in and accepts logic but their emotions do not accept it, they live that way. If both accept it, they behave normally. The unity of mind and heart in our culture and belief system starts here. We add meaning to material events by loading them with emotion, combining logical meanings with emotional meanings. Then, if a person has a strong emotion, they can take action to do that thing. For example, a person who cannot quit smoking can quit suddenly when they see a tumor in their lung. Why? Fear. When they see fear, they understand the seriousness of the matter. Therefore, in therapy, it is necessary to work on consequence awareness. We need to provide a reason for action by saying, ‘If you behave this way, you lose these things, you are harmed by these things, but when you correct this, you will gain these.’ We need to give a reason to change. People act in the same way when studying. When laziness strikes, they endure by saying, ‘I need to make this sacrifice to pass the class’.”

## **“If a therapeutic alliance and trust are established, even small touches can be effective”**

Tarhan drew attention to the importance of the therapeutic relationship for behavioral change; “Sometimes, when trust is established with the therapist, when a therapeutic alliance is formed, a single word from you can be a very solid reason for the person to do it. Sometimes even small touches can be effective. We see this a lot in children and adolescents too. There is a smart child, but they cannot use their intelligence. I say, ‘You are smart, but you are not trying. You have a Ferrari engine, but the driver is inexperienced. In that case, we need to increase the driver's experience.’ This time the child says, ‘My intelligence is good, I can develop,’ and believes it. In therapy, if therapeutic collaboration and trust are established, in difficult cases, the person looks forward to the session. The therapist preparing for the session in advance also has many benefits. Taking brief notes on important topics while the person is speaking creates a feeling of ‘They are trying to understand me, they value me, they are thinking hard for me.’ In new-generation psychoanalysis, in neuro-psychoanalysis, the therapist is more active. In CBT, there is already a fully active system; written assignments are given, and whether goals have been achieved is jointly evaluated at each session. In Positive CBT, instead of correcting negative pathology, the person develops themselves using their character strengths. Psychological resilience and ego strength increase. When you strengthen a person's psychological immune system, they can solve problems on their own. Therefore, a treatment method that does not cause harm is more beneficial.”

## **“Setting boundaries is not punishment, it is framing the treatment”**

Tarhan pointed out the importance for therapists working with personality pathologies to protect their own boundaries; “Cluster B individuals can make the therapist feel worthless, helpless, powerless, weak. They do not do this knowingly, they do it unknowingly, as a requirement of their personality. In such situations, if the therapist buys into it, there will be no therapeutic cooperation. Boundary work needs to be done. Setting boundaries is not punishment, it is framing the treatment. Issues such as interview duration, out-of-session communication, and how to reach out in emergencies need to be clear. Because these individuals sometimes force to step outside the therapeutic framework. They test whether they can manipulate you. However, your boundary-setting, open, transparent, and accountable behaviors build trust in them. It is very easy to label a person as sick, it is harder to say they are healthy. Therefore, for me to understand you, we need to embark on a longer journey of meaning, an inner journey of discovery, with you. Sometimes patients idealize you, then devalue you. In such a situation, it is necessary to guide them to talk by saying, ‘Your thought has significantly changed in our session; I am trying to understand this change in you.’ If there is intense suspicion and the person perceives what you say as criticism, it is necessary to ask, ‘Which statement of mine made you feel this way?’ Because that person might have a fear of being hurt. Just as a person with an open wound reacts when you touch their wound, a person with a psychological wound can perceive a kind word as a threat. What we need to do here is try to understand them. All these statements are actually a cry for help, a silent cry for help. As we try to understand them, we both help that person and improve our own therapeutic skills. These patients teach a lot.”

## Akademik Referans

DOI: [https://doi.org/10.32739/uha.id.92735](https://doi.org/10.32739/uha.id.92735)

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