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title: "What can be done in child development?"
description: "Psychiatrist Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan penned an article this week in his Hürriyet Aile column on the topic of 'The Role of Parents in Child Development'."
url: https://uha.com.tr/what-can-be-done-in-child-development
type: article
language: en
last_updated: 2026-02-27
category: haber
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# What can be done in child development?

## Bilgi

| Özellik | Değer |
|---------|-------|
| **Kategori** | haber |
| **Yayın Tarihi** | 2021-05-12 |
| **Güncelleme** | 2026-02-27 |
| **Kaynak** | [Üsküdar Haber Ajansı](https://uha.com.tr/what-can-be-done-in-child-development) |

## Özet

Üsküdar Üniversitesi Founding Rector, Psychiatrist Prof. Dr. Nevzat Tarhan, penned an article this week in his Hürriyet Aile column on the topic of ‘The Role of Parents in Child Development’.

## İçerik

![](https://cdn.uskudar.edu.tr/uploads/images/2021/05/12/800/nevzat-tarhan-36.JPG)

When a child does something wrong, should we immediately punish them? In such situations, the mother should first use 'I' language.

**Narcissistic parent model raises children incorrectly**

In a parenting model where parents say, "Why are you doing this?" and wag their finger at the child, a quiet, obedient child is usually raised, but the child's self-confidence is low. This is unfortunately very common in our society. Parents put all kinds of pressure on the child and finally say: "I am doing this for you."

They tie the child to themselves. Such parents do not have children. Such parents have hostages. They take them hostage, enslave them. This is an extremely narcissistic parent model. It raises children incorrectly.

**Beware of the "I suffered, let them not suffer" approach!**

There is a second parenting model we have observed recently. There is a mistake made in what we call Generation Z. This is a parenting style that allows the child everything. They want the child to be free. They say, "I went through a lot of hardships, let them not go through them." The maturation of a child raised in affluence differs from that of a child raised in hardship.

**Children who always see fault in others become lonely**

In older generations, growth involved difficulties and deprivations. The child progressed through life by overcoming these difficulties naturally, but now it's as if a red carpet has been laid out for the child, and all paths are adorned with flowers. When this happens, the child obtains everything easily. When they learn to gain things without effort, without getting tired or sweating, they face difficulties in the future. Life is not that easy. No one will revolve around them like their mother and father. What happens to the child in such situations? The child always finds fault in others and becomes lonely. They don't have friends, they can't socialize.

**Play is a child's most serious work**

Play also has a very important place in a child's development. You will sit with the child and play games. Children have fine motor skills; how can these be developed? Needle and thread develop fine motor skills in girls. Taking apart, putting together – all these types of toys teach fine motor skills. Play is a child's most serious work. Let's never leave a child without play. Depriving a child of play is a harmful act. The child will play, take apart, put together. Because this is their small world. They repeat everything they have learned there. They put a symbol in place of their mother, a symbol in place of their father. They bring them together. While fantasizing in their own small world, they reflect this into play.

**The child will also spend time with their father**

Playing with both parents also has a very important place in a child's life. The child will play with both their mother and their father. Being a father is not just about bringing bread home. There is no difference between the role of a mother and the role of a father. In our culture, there is a wrong perspective. It keeps the father somewhat at a distance, the father brings bread home. This is not the role of a father.

**The magic concept: Spending time together**

The child inherits some personality traits from the mother and some from the father. They also inherit from the relationship between the mother and father. Therefore, the father must also succeed in spending time with the child. Spending time together is the magic concept here. If spending time together is possible, children establish a secure relationship with their parents. When they are scared of something, they glance at their parents. If there's an earthquake or a disaster, they glance, and if the parents are not panicking and are calm, the child will also be calm. Removing a child from the environment is torture.

The greatest duty for parents is to create a warm atmosphere at home for the child. Does the child come home from school willingly, or do the parents come home willingly? If home is a point of attraction, the child is healthy.

**Offer options instead of giving orders**

It is also important to give children age-appropriate responsibilities when raising them. To avoid raising self-centered children, parents should start with small responsibilities from an early age. For example, when a child is told "Wear this," their sense of autonomy does not develop. Instead of giving orders, it is necessary to offer options. Take out five t-shirts, but at least one should be appealing, one the child would like, and the child should say, "I chose it." This way, the parents do not lose control. Instead of giving orders, offer options; instead of giving advice or preaching, be an example, a role model. The child should say in later life, "My mom and dad are my heroes." If parents can make their children say this, they have become good role models for that child.

[HÜRRİYET AİLE](https://www.hurriyet.com.tr/aile/yazarlar/nevzat-tarhan/cocuk-gelisiminde-neler-yapilabilir-41806296)

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